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I. Making Well, Thought-Out, Balanced Decisions
BACKGROUND:
Making decisions is always hard, because there are many factors and risks involved. The most important thing though, is that you make them. Neuroscience tells us that reaching decisions reduces your worry and anxiety and helps you solve problems, even if the decision you reach is only “good enough”.
You can never have all the information, so you can never reach the perfect decision. It will always have a degree of uncertainty in it. The point is that the more you ‘process’ your Pathos and your Logos, the better your decision will be, the less the uncertainty you will face and the happier you will feel about it.
In his presentation of the concepts of Ethos, Pathos and Logos, Aristotle was referring to the traits an orator must have in order to influence and persuade his audience. (There are also two other, lesser known principles, Telos (end, goal) and Kairos (timing, context), which can be considered as included under the Logos principle, since they address logical, reality based matters.) Together, they represent the most basic questions we can ask regarding any situation or problem we are faced with i.e. Who, Why, What, Where and When:
I. Making Well, Thought-Out, Balanced Decisions
BACKGROUND:
Making decisions is always hard, because there are many factors and risks involved. The most important thing though, is that you make them. Neuroscience tells us that reaching decisions reduces your worry and anxiety and helps you solve problems, even if the decision you reach is only “good enough”.
You can never have all the information, so you can never reach the perfect decision. It will always have a degree of uncertainty in it. The point is that the more you ‘process’ your Pathos and your Logos, the better your decision will be, the less the uncertainty you will face and the happier you will feel about it.
In his presentation of the concepts of Ethos, Pathos and Logos, Aristotle was referring to the traits an orator must have in order to influence and persuade his audience. (There are also two other, lesser known principles, Telos (end, goal) and Kairos (timing, context), which can be considered as included under the Logos principle, since they address logical, reality based matters.) Together, they represent the most basic questions we can ask regarding any situation or problem we are faced with i.e. Who, Why, What, Where and When:
- Ethos addresses Who you are.
- Pathos addresses Why you want what you want.
- Logos addresses What and How; the actual realities you are facing.
- Telos addresses Where; the actual outcome you seek to achieve.
- Kairos addresses When; the best time to act.
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Now try it for yourself:
NAME: “The Charioteer-Decision-Maker®”
PURPOSE: To help you to think more clearly and to come to the best decision possible through processing your thoughts and feelings. It’s a process of checks and balances and working to gain the knowledge, courage and confidence needed to set the correct goals and take the most beneficial, balanced and informed decisions possible. (This askesis can also help you clarify and decide your life’s purpose/mission.)
Making decisions is always hard, because there are many factors and risks involved. The most important thing though, is that you make them. Neuroscience tells us that reaching decisions reduces your worry and anxiety and helps you solve problems, even if the decision you reach is only “good enough”.
You can never have all the information, so you can never reach the perfect decision. It will always have a degree of uncertainty in it. The point is that the more you ‘process’ your Pathos and your Logos, the better your decision will be, the less the uncertainty you will face and the happier you will feel about it.
INSTRUCTIONS: Briefly describe your dilemma or issue, that needs to be decided on here. It’s best to frame the question here beginning with at least 2-3 clear options that you want to consider as a possible ‘solution’, which you will proceed to pass through the filters of Ethos, Pathos, Logos.
Write your 2-3 alternatives/paths here:
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Pass them through the “Three Filters”:
PURPOSE: To help you to think more clearly and to come to the best decision possible through processing your thoughts and feelings. It’s a process of checks and balances and working to gain the knowledge, courage and confidence needed to set the correct goals and take the most beneficial, balanced and informed decisions possible. (This askesis can also help you clarify and decide your life’s purpose/mission.)
Making decisions is always hard, because there are many factors and risks involved. The most important thing though, is that you make them. Neuroscience tells us that reaching decisions reduces your worry and anxiety and helps you solve problems, even if the decision you reach is only “good enough”.
You can never have all the information, so you can never reach the perfect decision. It will always have a degree of uncertainty in it. The point is that the more you ‘process’ your Pathos and your Logos, the better your decision will be, the less the uncertainty you will face and the happier you will feel about it.
INSTRUCTIONS: Briefly describe your dilemma or issue, that needs to be decided on here. It’s best to frame the question here beginning with at least 2-3 clear options that you want to consider as a possible ‘solution’, which you will proceed to pass through the filters of Ethos, Pathos, Logos.
Write your 2-3 alternatives/paths here:
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2.
3.
Pass them through the “Three Filters”:
1. Ethos Filter - Be honest and truthful with yourself; Is the path or solution that you are thinking about aligned with who you are? Is it aligned with your integrity and core values? Does it reflect who you aspire to be; your Authentic, Best Self? Is it aligned with your Personal Mission Statement, your Life Purpose, your character? (If you don’t have a personal mission statement yet, see the relevant Askesis further on in this section.) Write your thoughts here:
2. Pathos Filter - Consider Pathos: Your emotions (hopes and dreams as well as fears) How do I feel about it? What emotions does it evoke in you? Emotions express your subconscious thinking and will usually reveal actual blocks or opportunities. Pathos will compel you on the one hand, raising your hopes that your dreams can be achieved, but on the other hand, it may paralyze you with fear and self-doubt; This may make you waver with indecision on how to proceed. Answer these questions:
What is your BIG WHY? (They say that “If your ‘why’ doesn’t make you cry, it’s not big enough.”)
What is holding you back?
Write about your 3 Fears/Concerns
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Note: To ‘process’ these reservations, fears or emotions you can also apply the next Askesis on Managing Your Thoughts & Emotions
3. Logos Filter - What, and How. Logos is your ‘reality-check’. Consider the hopes and fears you listed above in view of the actual realities you are facing. Are they true? Are your fears overblown or your hopes too naive and optimistic? The only way to know is to work the numbers and list the facts. What do they say? What does ‘common sense’ say? What are the logical, rational steps and strategies that must be followed? What proofs, evidence or case-studies do you have? What is the ‘usefulness’ of this path you are choosing? Telos:Is it beneficial to you in the short term as well as in the long term? Kairos: Is this the right time?
Note: It is a good idea to discuss this with a mentor, coach or consultant, to get someone else’s opinion.
Finally, TAKE A DECISION and write it down:
2. Pathos Filter - Consider Pathos: Your emotions (hopes and dreams as well as fears) How do I feel about it? What emotions does it evoke in you? Emotions express your subconscious thinking and will usually reveal actual blocks or opportunities. Pathos will compel you on the one hand, raising your hopes that your dreams can be achieved, but on the other hand, it may paralyze you with fear and self-doubt; This may make you waver with indecision on how to proceed. Answer these questions:
What is your BIG WHY? (They say that “If your ‘why’ doesn’t make you cry, it’s not big enough.”)
What is holding you back?
Write about your 3 Fears/Concerns
1.
2.
3.
Note: To ‘process’ these reservations, fears or emotions you can also apply the next Askesis on Managing Your Thoughts & Emotions
3. Logos Filter - What, and How. Logos is your ‘reality-check’. Consider the hopes and fears you listed above in view of the actual realities you are facing. Are they true? Are your fears overblown or your hopes too naive and optimistic? The only way to know is to work the numbers and list the facts. What do they say? What does ‘common sense’ say? What are the logical, rational steps and strategies that must be followed? What proofs, evidence or case-studies do you have? What is the ‘usefulness’ of this path you are choosing? Telos:Is it beneficial to you in the short term as well as in the long term? Kairos: Is this the right time?
Note: It is a good idea to discuss this with a mentor, coach or consultant, to get someone else’s opinion.
Finally, TAKE A DECISION and write it down:
