Make disappointment your best friend.
"Men are disturbed not by things,
but of the view which they take of them."
Disappointment is one of life’s most uncomfortable feelings. It’s complex, containing a subset of other emotions like anger, hurt, sadness, and probably many others too subtle to identify.
Actually, disappointment can be direct route to where we want to go.
Did you know that some of the greatest insights and breakthroughs
followed a great disappointment?
Watch this 3-minute video and discover ways deal with disappointment
and transform it into a breakthrough.
Brighten up, things can only get better now.
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How Resilient Are you?
On a scale from 1-10 How resilient are you at coping with life’s stresses and setbacks?
Let’s face it, bad things happen to good people all the time; We have accidents, people won’t always act with integrity, and those we count on will sometimes let us down. This isn’t negative thinking; it’s reality.
What exactly is resilience…imagine your mind to be like an elastic band…the more ‘elastic’ it is, the more ‘resilient’ it is at snapping back to its original, healthy state…
Well, its never too late to strengthen your ability to handle future challenges better.
Here are 6 points to increase your resilience.
1. Raise your perspective.
Albert Einstein: “Our problems cannot be solved on the same level of thinking at which they were created.”
2. Watch your words. Your words create your reality.
3. Create and practice daily resilience rituals. It’s your small daily rituals that set you up to handle everything else better.
4. Don’t let your problems define you. Use setbacks to propel you forward and make you braver and bigger than you ever would have been otherwise.
5. Get support. It’s not a sign of weakness.
6. Be Realistic. Former superstar CEO of General Electric, Jack Welch credits his success to seeing truth in all situations. “Face reality as it is, not as it was or as you wish it were”.
I have personally been through many disappointments, health issues and failed attempts at my goals, and what they’ve taught me is that human spirt is more powerful than anything we are facing. We just have to be keep faith that, to quote the Greek Philospher, Socrates, “Within every adversity lies the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
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Respect; We all want it, but it’s not that easy to get.
How much do people respect you at work ?
Find out by answering these 10 critical questions to determine how much respect you have already and how you can gain even more respect at work.
To the following questions , just answer Yes/No:
1. Do you focus on building trust with your co-workers daily?
2. Do you cultivate reliability through consistency ?
3. Do you choose to be assertive rather than being aggressive and coersive to get things done?
4. Are you flexible, willing to see things from different perspectives?
5. Are you personal, authentic with your co-workers ?
6. Do you focus on actions rather than argument ?
7. Do you listen to others ?
8. Are your life values (ex. excellence, honor, duty, commitment) reflected in your work ?
9. Are you viewed with respect from most of your collegues?
10.Do you believe in Aristotle’s quote, “The only way to achieve true success is to express yourself completely in service to society.”
If you answered “yes” to 8-9 of these 10 questions, CONGRATULATIONS, you are an awesome professional, and people really respect you already…For the rest of you, there’s plenty of work to be done on those areas which where mentioned.
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How would you like to overcome your greatest fear & take action to realize your dream?
Tim Ferriss the 'productivity guru', has said that,“What we fear doing most, is usually what we most need to do.” Uncertainty and the prospect of failure, is what usually keeps us from taking action…
If you are nervous about making the plunge into a major and exciting life change. You can apply the Socratic Method of asking yourself these 5 critical questions in the video, that will liberate you from your fears....And if you are wondering if you actually have the time to sit and think about these questions remember that Einstein had once said,
“ If I had an hour to solve a problem, and my life depended on it, I’d use the first 55 minutes determining the proper questions to ask.”
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Your Personal Mission Statement“Writing or reviewing a mission statement changes you because it forces you to think through your priorities deeply, carefully, and to align your behaviour with your beliefs”
~Stephen Covey, ‘7 Habits of Highly Effective People’
A personal mission consists of 3 parts:
1. Do the exercise with the 15 questions from the previous blog as quickly as you can.
2. List out actions words you connect with your answers.
a. Example: educate, accomplish, empower, encourage, improve, help, give, guide, inspire, integrate, master, motivate, nurture, organize, produce, promote, travel, spread, share, satisfy, understand, teach, write, etc.
3. Based on your answers to the 15 questions. List everything and everyone that you believe you can help.
a. Example: People, creatures, organizations, causes, groups, environment, etc.
4. Identify your end goal. How will the ‘who’ from your above answer benefit from what you ‘do’?
5. Combine steps 2-4 into a sentence, or 2-3 sentences.
What is your purpose? What is your mission? I’d love to hear about your goals and aspirations. Please share with a comment !
As always, I am here to assist in a one-to-one session.
Find your purpose with these questions.
When you are clear about your purpose, nothing can hold you back.
1. What makes you smile? (Activities, people, events, hobbies, projects, etc.)
2. What are your favorite things to do in the past? What about now?
3. What activities make you lose track of time?
4.What are you naturally good at? (Skills, abilities, gifts etc.)
7. What do people typically ask you for help in?
8. If you had to teach something, what would you teach?
9. What would you regret not fully doing, being or having in your life?
10. You are now 90 years old, sitting on a rocking chair outside your porch; you can feel the spring breeze gently brushing against your face. You are blissful and happy, and are pleased with the wonderful life you’ve been blessed with. Looking back at your life and all that you’ve achieved and acquired, all the relationships you’ve developed; what matters to you most? List them out.
11. What are your deepest values?
Select 3 to 6 and prioritize the words in order of importance to you.
12. What were some challenges, difficulties and hardships you’ve overcome or are in the process of overcoming? How did you do it?
13. What causes do you strongly believe in? Connect with?
14. If you could get a message across to a large group of people. Who would those people be? What would your message be?
15. Given your talents, passions and values. How could you use these resources to serve, to help, to contribute? ( to people, beings, causes, organization, environment, planet, etc.)
And as always, if you would like one-to-one assistance with finding your purpose, book your session with me HERE.
What's your most important goal over the next 18 months?
Goal setting is powerful because it makes us focus. It shapes our life. It gives us the ability to hone in on the exact actions we need to perform to achieve everything we desire in life. Goals are great because they cause us to stretch and grow.
In order to reach our goals, we become better people.
In today's video-blog we look at your goal more closely, to see if it passes the basic criteria:
Is it a S.M.A.R.T goal ? This broader definition will help you to be successful in both your business and personal life.
S - specific, significant, stretching ?
M - measurable, meaningful, motivational ?
A - agreed upon, attainable, achievable, acceptable, action-oriented ?
R - realistic, relevant, reasonable, rewarding, results-oriented ?
T - time-based, time-bound, timely, tangible, trackable ?
Despite all of these criteria, unfortunately, the present can produce many difficult obstacles. But setting goals provides long-term vision in our lives and sooner or later, our goals will be achieved. We all need powerful, long-range goals to help us get past those short-term obstacles. Fortunately, the more powerful our goals are, the more we’ll be able to act on and guarantee that they will actually come to pass.
Remember: The most important benefit of setting goals isn’t achieving your goal;
it’s the person you become in the process of achieving the goal.
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Anger management, according to the Greek philosopher, Plato, is one of the greatest achievements.
Plato said, "For a man to conquer himself is the first and greatest of all victories"
Yes, managing anger is no simple task but a necessary one, for happy and fulfilling work and private life.
Doctors recommend daily practice of a deeply relaxing inner state, to help us manage stress and anxiety. Scientific Studies have proven that in relaxed state, the mind is more than 200% more receptive to suggestions, than in ordinary, conscious state.
In addition, when we introduce a 'positive mission statement' during this practice, it can bring on positive powerful changes in our life. See today’s video-blog episode to get a ‘glimpse’ of such an exercise for only three minutes, and if you like it, go to this page to listen to a FREE relaxing mp3 with my voice as a guide.
The 7 BENEFITS you will receive from the deeply relaxing guided visualizations:
“Successful careers are not planned. They develop when people are prepared for opportunities because they know their strengths, their method of work, and their values.”
This is what top management guru, Peter Drucker once wrote on the topic of managing oneself and managing one’s career, in an article published, in the Harvard Business Review.
The reference point to all this of course, is in our life purpose/ mission statement and core values. There, we have all the information about who we are, what we want and where we are going.
But what does it really mean to manage yourself?
According to Drucker, “Successful careers are not planned”: It is rarely possible—or even particularly fruitful—to look too far ahead. A plan should usually cover no more than a year and a half.
So the question in most cases should be: “Where and how can I achieve results that will make a difference within the next year and a half ?”
The answers depends on your confidence. When you have your mission statement you will have confidence and certainty.
If you do that, you can transform yourself from a ordinary into OUTSTANDING .
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